Saturday, May 27, 2023

The Power of Gratitude: Transforming Your Life Through Appreciation

In a fast-paced and often chaotic world, cultivating gratitude can be a powerful tool for finding happiness and contentment. Gratitude is a mindset that focuses on acknowledging and appreciating the positive aspects of life, both big and small. In this blog post, we will explore the profound impact of gratitude on your life, the importance of being mindful of your gratitude, the benefits of gratitude journaling, and why it is an effective practice for personal growth and well-being.

I. How Gratitude Impacts Your Life: 

Gratitude is not just a fleeting emotion; it has the potential to transform your entire outlook on life. Here are some ways gratitude can positively impact your life:


Enhances Mental Well-being:

Gratitude shifts your focus from negativity to positivity, promoting a sense of happiness and contentment. It reduces stress, anxiety, and depression by redirecting your attention to the present moment and the things you appreciate.


Strengthens Relationships:

Expressing gratitude strengthens social connections and fosters deeper relationships. It helps you appreciate the people in your life and encourages a more positive and empathetic approach to interactions.

Boosts Physical Health:


Grateful individuals often experience better sleep, lower blood pressure, and improved immune function. It encourages self-care practices as you become more aware of and appreciative of your body and health.

II. Being Mindful of Your Gratitude:

Gratitude is a state of mind that can be cultivated through conscious practice. Here's why it's important to be mindful of your gratitude:

Shifts Focus to the Present:


Mindful gratitude directs your attention to the present moment, helping you become fully aware of the positive aspects of your life right now. It allows you to let go of worries about the past or future and embrace the joy in the present.


Increases Appreciation:


Mindfulness helps you notice and appreciate the small details and simple pleasures that often go unnoticed. By paying attention to the present, you develop a deeper appreciation for the beauty and abundance around you.

Cultivates a Positive Mindset:


Being mindful of your gratitude trains your mind to seek out and focus on the positive, even in challenging situations. It encourages a shift from a scarcity mentality to an abundance mentality, where you recognize and celebrate the good in your life.

III. Gratitude Journaling: A Powerful Practice: 

One effective way to incorporate gratitude into your daily life is through journaling. Here's why gratitude journaling works:


Promotes Reflection and Awareness:


Writing in a gratitude journal encourages you to reflect on your day and identify moments, experiences, or people you are grateful for. It brings attention to the positive aspects of your life that you might otherwise overlook.

Creates a Record of Positivity:


A gratitude journal serves as a tangible reminder of the good things in your life.
You can revisit your journal during challenging times to remind yourself of the positive experiences and emotions you have experienced.

Encourages a Gratitude Habit:


Regular journaling establishes a habit of seeking and appreciating gratitude.
It trains your mind to naturally focus on the positive, leading to increased overall well-being.

Practicing gratitude is a transformative journey that can enhance your life in numerous ways. By cultivating mindfulness, acknowledging the positive, and adopting gratitude journaling, you can experience profound shifts in your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Embrace the power of gratitude and watch as it unfolds a more joyful and fulfilling life right before your eyes.

Thursday, May 18, 2023

Boundaries: What they are; Why we need them; and what happens without them


A boundary is a limit or edge that defines an individual as separate from others.
Pretty  simple, huh? This concept may seem silly to talk about, but boundaries are necessary to survive and be happy.

"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up
alone. Its not. The worst thing in life is to end up
with people that make you feel alone." -Robin Williams

Boundaries: What are they?

Boundaries are the invisible lines that define your personal space, values, and limits. Boundaries are necessary to establish a sense of self, protect your well-being, and maintain healthy relationships. Boundaries can be physical, emotional, or psychological in nature and serve to establish a sense of identity, autonomy, and personal space. They define where one person ends and another begins, delineating personal rights, preferences, and responsibilities.

Boundaries: Why do we need them?


Boundaries play a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships and individual well-being. They help individuals establish and communicate their needs, desires, and values while respecting those of others. By setting boundaries, people can protect their physical and emotional space, avoid feeling overwhelmed or taken advantage of, and foster mutual respect and understanding in their interactions with others.  

Without boundaries, we may find ourselves constantly giving more than we can handle, feeling resentful and overwhelmed, and experiencing negative consequences such as anxiety and depression. By setting clear boundaries, we can communicate our needs and expectations to others, prioritize self-care, and create a sense of safety and security in our relationships.

Boundaries can manifest in various ways, such as personal space, privacy, time management, emotional availability, and communication styles. They can be flexible or rigid, depending on personal preferences and cultural norms. For example, some individuals may have wider personal space boundaries, while others may prefer closer proximity.

The benefits of setting boundaries:

Setting boundaries has many positive rewards for a person such as:
  • Preserving your mental, emotional, and physical health.
  • Promoting self-respect, self-care, and self-esteem.
  • Encouraging open and honest communication.
  • Building healthier relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.

How to Set Boundaries:

 Reflecting on Your Needs:

Before you can set boundaries, you need to know what your needs are. Take some time to reflect on what's important to you and what you need in order to feel safe and comfortable. You can do this by:
  • Self-reflection to identify personal values, priorities, and limits.
  • Becoming aware of emotional and physical responses when boundaries are violated.

Communicating Boundaries Effectively:

When communicating your boundaries to others, be clear and direct about what you need by:
  • Emphasizing the importance of clear and assertive communication.
  • Using "I" statements to express boundaries without blaming or attacking others.
  • Practicing active listening to understand others' perspectives and foster healthy dialogues.

Implementing Boundaries:

Setting boundaries can feel overwhelming at first. Start with small, manageable boundaries and work your way up as you become more comfortable.
  • Set boundaries gradually, starting with low-stakes situations.
  • It is important to remain consistent in enforcing boundaries. Consistency is key to establishing healthy boundaries and building trust with others.
  • Say "no" when necessary, establish time and space for self-care, and define expectations in relationships.

The Consequences of Having No Boundaries:

  • Increased risk of being taken advantage of or manipulated.
  • Overwhelming feelings of guilt, resentment, and exhaustion.
  • Damaged relationships due to lack of clear expectations and communication.
Setting boundaries is not about being selfish or controlling. It's about taking care of yourself and creating healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding. With practice and patience, you can learn to set boundaries that work for you and improve your overall well-being.

It is important to note that boundaries are subjective and vary among individuals. They can be influenced by personal experiences, cultural norms, upbringing, and individual personalities. While boundaries are necessary for healthy relationships, they should also allow for open communication, empathy, and mutual understanding. Striking a balance between personal boundaries and interpersonal connections is essential for fostering healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Here are a few articles you may find helpful about setting boundaries:











Saturday, May 13, 2023

Diva's battle with Pancreatitis

My baby, Diva, is so sick with pancreatitis again.  2 years ago she almost died from it because I did not understand what was happening to her.  Now I am always on the look-out for the symptoms because once a dog has pancreatitis, there is a very good chance that they will have it over and over again. It is like the pancreas has been reset to be extremely sensitive to fat in the diet and responds immediately to any high-fat item ingested.

Diva has been showing the symptoms of this illness for a few days and I took her to the vet to be tested (there is a blood test for it).  Of course, it came back positive and she was given IV fluids and new medications and sent back home.  However, her symptoms did not improve so I took her back for an ultrasound of her abdomen.  


The ultrasound  showed a very inflamed pancreas and possible gall bladder involvement.  She stayed overnight to get more IV fluids, but now I am ready to go pick her up and bring her back home.  I don't like it when she is gone!

So, I have decided to post some information here about pancreatitis in dogs in case someone else needs this information:

Pancreatitis is a condition where the pancreas, a gland located near the stomach, becomes inflamed. This condition can affect dogs, and it can be a serious health issue if left untreated. In this post, we'll discuss the causes, treatment, why there is a chance of recurrence, and how to help your dog with pancreatitis.

Causes of Pancreatitis in Dogs

There are several factors that can contribute to the development of pancreatitis in dogs, including:


  • Obesity
  • High-fat diet
  • Trauma or injury to the pancreas
  • Certain medications
  • Infection
  • Autoimmune disease

It's worth noting that while any dog can develop pancreatitis, certain breeds are more prone to it, such as Miniature Schnauzers, Yorkshire Terriers, and Cocker Spaniels.

Treatment of Pancreatitis in Dogs

The treatment of pancreatitis in dogs depends on the severity of the condition. Mild cases may only require a short period of fasting and supportive care, while more severe cases may require hospitalization and intensive treatment. Treatment options may include:
  • Intravenous fluids to correct dehydration
  • Pain medication to manage discomfort
  • Antibiotics to treat or prevent infection
  • Nutritional support to maintain the dog's weight and health
  • In severe cases, surgery may be required to remove damaged tissue or drain fluid from the pancreas.


Why There is a Chance of Recurrence

Pancreatitis can be a recurring condition in dogs, and there are several factors that can contribute to this, including:



  • Obesity
  • Feeding a high-fat diet
  • Failure to follow a recommended diet after the initial episode
  • Certain medications
  • Underlying health conditions

How to Help Your Dog with Pancreatitis

There are several things you can do to help your dog if they have pancreatitis or to prevent it from occurring again:



  • Follow your veterinarian's recommended diet plan, which will likely be low-fat and easy to digest.
  • Avoid feeding your dog table scraps or high-fat treats.
  • Keep your dog at a healthy weight.
  • Monitor your dog for any signs of recurrence, such as vomiting, diarrhea, or loss of appetite.
  • Be sure to follow up with your veterinarian for regular check-ups to ensure your dog is staying healthy.

Just to reiterate, pancreatitis is a serious condition that can affect dogs, but with proper treatment and care, it can be managed. If you suspect your dog may have pancreatitis, it's important to seek veterinary care right away. Following your veterinarian's recommended treatment plan and making lifestyle changes can help reduce the chances of recurrence and improve your dog's overall health and quality of life.

Further reading includes:
Pancreatitis in Dogs

Monday, May 8, 2023

Silenced No More: Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women

 Because May 5th was designated by the Congress to be National Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women Day, I decided to go ahead and post this.  I wrote it a while back and have been thinking about whether to post it here or not. Since there is a national day assigned to this issue, I decided to go ahead and post it.

I feel quite strongly about this issue and have for some time now.  If you are unaware or uneducated about this issue, it is time for you to know about this problem. It is unbelievable that in today's world, this is such a huge issue.  It sometimes feels as if our world has gone crazy!

This is a long post because its purpose is to educate on this issue.  We touched on this problem once before here, but this post delves even deeper into the subject.  We as a society must act to improve the response to each incident as well as to learn why this is occurring.  Only with education on the topic can we actually make any progress.

The issue of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women (MMIW) is a devastating reality in North America that disproportionately affects Indigenous communities. MMIW refers to the alarming number of cases involving Indigenous women who have been reported missing or found murdered under suspicious circumstances. Despite the severity of the issue, there has been a lack of action and attention from government officials and law enforcement.

Definition of Missing and Murdered

Indigenous Women (MMIW)

The term MMIW encompasses a complex societal issue that has affected Indigenous communities for decades. It refers to cases involving missing or murdered Indigenous women, including trans women and girls, who have been reported as gone missing or found deceased in suspicious circumstances. This issue impacts not only individuals but entire families and communities, leading to intergenerational trauma.

Importance of Discussing MMIW

The high rates of MMIW highlight the systemic racism, marginalization, poverty, lack of access to resources such as healthcare, education, housing that are faced by many Indigenous peoples in North America. The impact goes beyond just statistics as it disrupts entire families and communities leaving long-lasting effects on their mental health. Discussing this issue is essential for addressing the root causes contributing to this epidemic.

Indigenous people are more likely than any other racial group in Canada to experience violent crime and harassment so it is imperative that we support their communities through these times. Their culture also plays an important role which leads us into our next section

Brief History of MMIW in North America

The history behind MMIW dates back centuries with colonization being one main cause for such violence against Native American women. There has been significant damage done including separating children from their families during boarding schools era where cultural practices were prohibited. These policies have resulted in intergenerational trauma, which has only amplified the problem of MMIW.

Despite the long history of this issue, it wasn't until the 1980s that Indigenous communities began organizing to draw attention to it. Additionally, actions from governments and law enforcement have been slow and inadequate due to systemic racism entrenched in our institutions.

This has left families of MMIW feeling unheard and neglected by those who are supposed to serve them. The need for continued advocacy and education surrounding MMIW is crucial in order to address this issue head-on.

High-Level Overview of MMIW

Statistics on the number of missing and murdered

Indigenous women in North America

The issue of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women is not just a local or regional concern, but rather a global one. In North America, there have been thousands of cases reported over the last few decades.

According to reports by the Royal Canadian Mounted Police (RCMP), over 1,200 Indigenous women have been killed or gone missing in Canada between 1980 and 2012. Similarly, the US Justice Department found that Native American women experience murder rates more than ten times higher than the national average.

It's worth noting that these numbers may be underestimated since many cases go unreported or are not accurately recorded. Additionally, many families of MMIW face barriers when attempting to report their missing loved ones to law enforcement agencies due to systemic racism.

Factors contributing to the high rates of MMIW,

such as systemic racism, poverty, and lack of access to resources

There are numerous contributing factors that perpetuate this human-rights crisis. Systemic racism is arguably one of the most significant contributors as it creates an environment where violence against Indigenous women is normalized and justice for these crimes is often neglected.

Poverty also plays an instrumental role as it can lead to a lack of access to resources such as transportation and safe housing. The historical trauma experienced by Indigenous communities due to colonization has also contributed significantly.

The introduction of colonial policies such as residential schools led to cultural erasure and intergenerational trauma which affect many families today. This trauma can create additional challenges when seeking support from law enforcement agencies who may not understand how historical injustices still affect present-day realities.

Government response to the issue

Governments across North America have been criticized for their handling - or lack thereof - regarding this issue. In Canada, the National Inquiry into Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls was launched in 2016.

The inquiry's final report declared that the ongoing violence against Indigenous women is a form of genocide. Similarly, in the United States, the Savanna's Act was signed into law by President Donald Trump in 2018.

The act aims to address issues such as improving data collection on MMIW, increasing coordination between law enforcement agencies, and training programs for law enforcement officials. Despite these efforts, there is still much work to be done as Indigenous communities continue to face disproportionate rates of violence.

The Impact on Indigenous Communities

and Families Affected by MMIW

Indigenous communities and families are disproportionately affected by the issue of MMIW. The loss of a loved one to violence can have a significant impact on a community, and the loss of an Indigenous woman is particularly devastating due to their important role in their communities as life-givers and caretakers. The trauma experienced by Indigenous families who have lost loved ones to MMIW is often compounded by systemic racism within law enforcement systems, which can lead to poor treatment or neglect of cases involving Indigenous women.

Furthermore, the impact of MMIW extends beyond just the immediate family or community. The issue has significant intergenerational effects that have been passed down through generations since colonization.

The loss of Indigenous women not only affects their families but also has broader implications for Indigenous cultures and traditional knowledge systems. It is crucial that we understand the depth of pain and suffering that MMIW has caused across generations if we are to address this issue effectively.

The Role of Law Enforcement in

Investigating Cases of MMIW

The lack of proper investigation into cases involving missing or murdered Indigenous women is a longstanding issue. Law enforcement agencies may not take these cases seriously or prioritize them properly, leading to incomplete investigations or unsolved cases.

This lack of accountability contributes significantly to the high rates of MMIW. Additionally, there are concerns about mistreatment and discrimination against Indigenous people by law enforcement officials when reporting crimes.

These problems are magnified when it comes to missing or murdered Indigenous women, resulting in mistrust between affected communities and law enforcement agencies. Proper training for law enforcement officials on issues related to MMIW would be beneficial in addressing these shortcomings in investigations while also serving as a step towards repairing relationships between police departments and affected communities.

The Intersectionality Between Gender-Based

Violence and Colonialism

The intersectionality between gender-based violence against Indigenous women and colonialism is a critical aspect of understanding the issue of MMIW. The legacy of colonization and forced assimilation policies in North America has resulted in systemic racism and oppression against Indigenous peoples, including gender-based violence. The effects of colonialism are far-reaching, resulting in social, economic, and cultural disruption within Indigenous communities.

These disruptions have led to higher rates of poverty, homelessness, addiction, and mental health issues among Indigenous people. These factors all contribute to the increased risk of MMIW.

It is essential to acknowledge the historical context behind this issue if we are to address it effectively. Addressing colonialism's legacy requires a comprehensive approach that considers economic, social, and cultural factors alongside legal reform.

The Importance of Cultural Preservation

in Preventing Further Cases of MMIW

Indigenous cultures hold knowledge systems that have sustained their communities for generations. Preserving these cultures is crucial when addressing issues like MMIW as they provide valuable insight into strategies for prevention or intervention.

Cultural preservation can also serve as a form of healing for Indigenous communities affected by MMIW's intergenerational impacts. The revitalization of traditional practices can support individuals' wellbeing while serving as a means to build stronger connections between individuals within their communities.

Understanding niche subtopics within the larger issue of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women is vital if we are to address this issue effectively. Only with a comprehensive understanding can we begin working towards true justice for murdered or missing Indigenous women while also taking steps towards building healthier relationships between law enforcement agencies and affected communities.

The Untold Stories of MMIW

Behind every statistic of a missing or murdered Indigenous woman, there is a real person and a family left in grief. One such story is that of Ashley HeavyRunner Loring, who went missing in 2017 while studying at college in Montana.

She was last seen at a party and her disappearance was not reported until four days later. Despite extensive searches and investigations, Ashley has never been found.

Her sister Kimberly Loring believes that if Ashley had been non-Indigenous or from a wealthier background, the response to her disappearance would have been more urgent. Another heartbreaking case is that of Tina Fontaine, a 15-year-old girl from Sagkeeng First Nation who was found dead in Winnipeg's Red River in 2014.

She had run away from her foster home and was reported missing only days before her body was discovered wrapped in plastic and weighed down by rocks. Tina's death sparked national outrage and led to renewed calls for action on MMIW.

These individual cases show the devastating impact that MMIW has on families and communities. They also highlight the systemic issues at play that contribute to Indigenous women being disproportionately affected by violence.

The Historical Context of MMIW

The history of colonization and residential schools in North America has had lasting effects on Indigenous communities, including the ongoing issue of MMIW. For centuries, Indigenous women have faced violence at the hands of colonizers and settlers who sought to exert power over them.

The legacy of residential schools is particularly relevant to understanding the disproportionate rates of violence against Indigenous women today. These government-funded schools were designed to assimilate Indigenous children into Euro-Canadian culture, often through physical abuse and cultural genocide.

As a result, many Indigenous families were broken apart or punished for practicing their own cultural traditions. This legacy continues today with ongoing injustices towards Indigenous peoples such as land thefts, water contamination, and systemic racism.

Non-Indigenous Allyship in

Addressing MMIW

As non-Indigenous individuals, it is important to recognize our role in addressing the issue of MMIW. One way to support Indigenous communities is to educate ourselves and others about the issue. This can involve reading books or articles written by Indigenous authors, attending rallies or events focused on MMIW awareness, and donating money or time to organizations working towards justice for Indigenous peoples.

It is also important for non-Indigenous individuals to listen to Indigenous voices and follow their lead in addressing this issue. This means centering the experiences and perspectives of Indigenous women and supporting their leadership in creating solutions to the problem of MMIW.

The issue of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women (MMIW) is not one that can be ignored. The staggering statistics, the heartbreaking stories, and the systemic issues that contribute to this problem demand our attention.

It is crucial that we continue to have conversations about MMIW and take action to address it. This includes holding governments accountable for better responses to cases of MMIW, educating ourselves on the history and context of violence against Indigenous women, supporting Indigenous-led initiatives aimed at preventing violence against women, and protecting cultural practices and traditions.
There are many articles available online on this topic.  They truly will break your heart to read them. Here are a few that you might want to see:

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